Our Halloween

I hope everyone had a safe Halloween yesterday and survived any frustrating encounters they may have had with their mother in laws. I did have to see my MIL yesterday but thankfully there were no angry blowups. We had a fairly nice Halloween. I will admit she still annoyed me, but I think at this point her simply breathing is irritating at times-in other words she is going to annoy me no matter what she does probably.

We took our 1 year old trick or treating downtown yesterday afternoon. Our town holds a special trick or treating event downtown for young kids every year. The point is for little ones to be able to safely trick or treat in daylight with their parents around all of the downtown shops. We were about halfway through when it began getting really breezy and chilly. Our daughter was dressed as Dorothy from The Wizard of Oz, so she began shivering in her little "Dorothy" dress. We decided we wanted to hurry down the block and visit a friend and then call it a day.

First however, Jack's mom called and said that she and her oldest son, his girlfriend, and his two children wanted meet us and see our daughter's costume. So we stopped at a place on the sidewalk where we agreed to meet and we waited....and waited...and waited! We probably only waited for 15 or 20 minutes but that felt like a long time when we have a cold baby and the wind is blowing. I turned to Jack and told him how annoying I thought it was to see adults without children, trick or treating and taking candy. After all this is a special community event just for the younger children so I found it rude that some adults would even considering dressing up and taking candy that should be going out to small children-especially when I kept hearing businesses say that they were running out of candy. So as we stood there waiting for Jack's family I mentioned my frustration with the adults to Jack. Not even five minutes later down the sidewalk came Jack's mom-carrying a trick or treat bucket. When she got down to us she proudly showed us her bucket and said she was trick or treating and getting candy too! Sigh. Oh well other than that, it was a fantastic day!

Happy Halloween 2011!

I wanted to go as a witch this Halloween...but my mother in law wouldn't let me borrow a dress!

Which One?

A man met a wonderful woman and became engaged to her. He called his mother to share his good news with her. He arranged to have dinner with his mother that evening so that she could meet his fiancee. When he arrived at her home, he brought along three women - a blonde, a brunette, and a redhead. His mother inquired as to why he had brought THREE women, instead of just one. He replied that he wanted to see if his mother would be able to guess which one of the women was her future daughter-in-law.
She looked at each one carefully and then replied: "It's the redhead."
"Wow! How could you possibly have figured that out so quickly?" he inquired.
She coldly replied: "Because I can't stand HER."

Don't Even Give Me That Look!

Today's cartoon does not really have to do with mother in laws however it sparked something in me. I cannot stand it when I say I am a stay at home mom or a housewife and people give me almost a sympathetic look as if to say, "It's okay, it is hard to find a job right now." Or they look at me with disgust as if they think I am completely lazy. Excuse me, you are working an 8 hour shift that you can clock out of and take ten minute breaks and a nice little lunch break. I am working a 24 hour shift with no scheduled breaks. I don't get to clock out of my job. As my grandmother always told me," A woman's work is never done".  In a way this cartoon does have something to do with my mother in law, because she has implied several times that she thinks I'm lazy and don't do anything but sit (oh how I wish just for a couple hours) while her son works so hard for us. Yes, it is true I stayed home with our child for 7 months while he worked an 8 hour shift overnight. However I did all the cooking, cleaning, taking trash out, playing with our daughter, changing her every diaper, taking her to the emergency room, teaching our daughter new words etc. The simple break down is I was a mother and a wife-a full time job! I would not complain except his mom made such a stink about me being so lazy yet I did EVERYTHING when it came to the home, and as soon as my husband clocked out at work he would say that he was tired and not to be bothered. If I asked him to take the trash out or wash a few dishes or even rinse his dishes off for Pete's sake so that they would be easier for me to wash later, his answer was "I already worked today I am done". Let me also state that when we first got married and I was pregnant I worked part time while he sat at home playing video games all day and I still managed to work and take care of everything having to do with our home. Then the baby came, and after two months I returned to work. Again I when I got off work I would come home and take care of everything that needed done at home-which was now a mountain of stuff with the baby. So exhausted from work, I came home tackled dishes, took care of my daughter tried to make dinner while my husband sat and played video games because he took care of her while I was at work so now he was done for the day. So whenever his mother implies I am lazy and don't do anything I just want scream at her! When you compare her to me I would have to say that she is the lazy one. She couldn't even be bothered to teach her son simple manners and how to act as an adult or as a husband/father. That is extreme laziness. When you are shaping and molding a child and young person into who they will become you don't get to skip a few steps. You see it through and make sure you give them everything you have to offer knowledge wise and if you don't know that much-you learn for yourself what needs to be taught! I am tired, stressed, mentally overworked and mentally stretched thin, but I am not lazy. My husband is so lazy that instead of opening a can of soup and pouring it into a pot and heating it, he will just call his mom to bring him fast food or something when he is hungry. Yes, I do normally cook for him however I am never thanked. When I was growing up my parents alternated who did the cooking often based on who was working. One thing I remember very clearly is that when we all sat down to dinner we ALL thanked the person who made the meal. So because I am never thanked have very little help in return sometimes when my husband says "I'm hungry" (translation- make me something to eat) I just say well there is soup in the cupboards and bread and such in the fridge. His response is almost always to walk away huffing mad and look for some chips or twinkies that his mom bought him or to text her and ask if she'll get him something to eat My husband just assumes it his given right to be served and fed when needed. Why? I would assume because whenever he was hungry his mommy just made him food. That is fine when you are little but come on, I wasn't even a teenager before I would say that I was hungry and if no one else was hungry but me, then I was reminded of where the tuna, lunch meat, soup, etc. was. That is part of growing up. Something my mother in law was to lazy to teach her own son. Now instead of having a child and a husband/partner to share the load and help me, I have two children to take care of and I hate to say it but my 1 year old has better manners than my "husband". Why? -Because I am not a lazy mother!.

Mail Order Mother-In-Laws

Wife – You hate my relatives!
Husband – No, I don’t! In fact, I like your mother-in-law more than I like mine.

Quotes about Mother-In Laws...

“I haven’t spoken to my mother-in-law for eighteen months. I don’t like to interrupt her.”
~ Ken Dodd

Adam was the luckiest man; he had no mother-in-law.
~ Mark Twain

 I told my mother-in-law that my house was her house, and she said, "Get the hell off my property."
~ Joan Rivers  

 "Tomorrow it's the mother-in-law's funeral...and she's cancelled it."
~ Les Dawson

 "Difference between law and in-law is you can justify yourself before law but never before in-laws"
~Unknown

 "The mother-in-law frequently forgets that she was a daughter-in-law”
~Unknown

 “English Law prohibits a man from marrying his mother-in-law. This is our idea of useless legislation.”
~Brook Hays